First the easy one: yes the calorifier is the thing that looks like a hot water tank and it may well be in the shower room (not having seen your boat I can't tell if it's the shower room or not )
The next easy one, yes you do need antifreeze in the central heating system, even when it is driven by a Squirrel. There should be a header tank somewhere, that you can top up; it could be anywhere, so you'll just have to search for it. The only clues I can give you are (1) it will be higher up than the top of the stove or any of the radiators and (2) it is connected to the pipework somewhere. OK they're pretty obvious clues, I know, but from there onwards you're on your own! When you've found it, the way to get antifreeze in is first to drain some (or all) of the water, usually at a radiator, then pre-mix some water and antifreeze and add it to the header tank; of course you need to ensure it gets mixed in by perhaps daraining some more so it runs out of the header tank, then by running the system.
You don't of course need antifreeze until the cold weather comes - but the "morning after" could be too late. Also you should use conventional antifreeze just like the type you put in a car, and that includes an inhibitor so it's best to put it in anyway.
Now for quantities. Difficult. You'll need more than 4 litres, that's for sure. The engine manual won't include the pipework, as you say, but the pipes aren't going to hold a lot. But before you breathe too big a sigh of relief, the skin tank is likely to hold at least as much as the engine. And as for the heating system, well that's anybody's guess. You could perhaps estimate it by finding out the capacity of the radiators and work from there.
Personally, particularly as you don't know what if anything is in there already and how long it has/hasn't been there would be to drain everything - engine, skin tank radiators, the lot - and see how much comes out, then refill it as appropriate. As for how to do all that, it's a long story, so can you do it OK?