Oh, I understand what your saying all right, and thanks for the helpful advice but I don't think I need any confidence building/handholding; I would rather rely on a lifetime spent as a professional mariner with a broad background in command of both ships and small boats, and as someone who has trained ship handlers over the years. You and I will just have to agree to differ about whether getting off a boat when singlehanding, for however small a period, with the gear engaged is good or bad practice
Best regards
Howard