I brought my two sons up on the basis that 'I' told 'them' how it was going to be. There was always an option to discuss, argue, consider and change, plus an ever watchful eye that no one got hurt. Compromise simply became a habit. They now have families of their own and all relations seem to be good.
They also seem to respect that, having sort of 'done my job' it is now time for me to pursue more self centred interests and they are all for it, except now 'they' are doing the 'watching' Which is nice but can get a bit frustrating sometimes!!!
I may be getting older but I CAN still think for myself
I had a relationship a few years ago with a lovely woman and we had great hopes for the future. Sadly, her children had been brought up telling 'her' how it would be, and there was no question of compromise in their vocabulary, and it was obviously never going to change for her, sometimes I am not sure she wanted it to, but that is another story.........
Just life I suppose, different people, different ideas, but there always comes a point when you are either 'free' to now follow your own ideas, or are maybe left waiting to follow the orders of your children, who have moved on but don't seem to think you have right to do the same !!!
Only a few words on a very large subject !!!