I tried the grass method... but the wind just took it off!!!
ok on a more serious note, she has now got her dangerous brothers involved (no i have not been cheating on her, i am not that shallow) i got a text from one of her brothers last night (he must think i'm stupid or something) saying he is have trouble with women at the moment and did i want to meet up to give him advise...
see the entire situation is this, she is not a boater, she was trying to draw me away from the boats and the boating community, she also has a kid on the way with her ex partner, 1. i'm not ready to be a dad. 2. i cannot financially afford to be a dad. 3. i am struggling to handle this girl because of her rowdy attitude. 4. i need to spend all my time and money getting my boat reffitted. 5. the current layout of my boat cannot deal with more than 2 people.
so she ended it with me on the 31st of may, she was drunk, all of a sudden she goes into a fit of abuse towards me, says to the group i'm with that its over for good, some of the group move on to wherever they were going, i say to her "i'll talk to you when you are sober" she says "and it will all be the same when i'm sober" so i said "ok fine, you won't see me again!" and i havn't.
since then i've had all the emotional black mail "oh i might be getting sectioned because of you" well no it is not because of me it is how you are responding to it, and i've had the "oh when i find your boat i'm gonna torch it" from 2 people and i made sure i saved the answer phone message just in case it does happen!!!
the only thing i'm doing now is my 3 jobs and sorting my boat out!