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Hi Starcoaster, sorry about not maintaining contact, life just got in the way, thanks for responding and for having helped me Hi junior, the Boat is at Rugby Boats

Hi Taslim I did try and contact Starcoaster but I may have made a mistake with the Email system hereand failed to send the message properly, anyhow she didn't respond, shall try again tomorrow

Hi Site Crew, the seller is a Marina was recommended by Starcoaster on this forum, Is it that the answer to my original question "Can someone with aspergers/autism buy a boat is actually no? Or can I employ someone to buy a boat? I feel quite sure that I'll have a problem with whatever seller I go to

Hi, sorry if I went all cold, I had family issues which distracted me somewhat, I went to view a boat today which I like very much, unsurprisingly the seller was very pushy,. he reused to let me arrange a test drive on the boat, is this usual as he claimed? Since now I have found a boat I like is there anyone here willing to help me with this?

bag 'o' bones I will try and respond to some of your points' not sure how best to quote you with out it getting a jumbled mess, if I do it wrong please try and excuse my error Its not obvious which is part of the problem. Most people don't notice that you are slightly different in my experience; well they might if they spend any amount of time in company. Not that it is your problem of course : ) Yes exactly, problem is it can come as a shock to them when they do notice or I get into a situation I can't handle If you don't understand what has been asked then the chances are the person did not explain it properly. There is no shame in asking for clarification, something I have to do on a regular basis! There are some people that I just can't understand where they are coming from, there is a risk that I just end up frustrating them and myself. Also it has become a very automatic response system, done even before I have thought properly, this habit is hard to break especially if I am feeling anxious around a person The trick is not to allow anyone to pressure you into something that your not comfortable with. Counting to 10 in your head before giving a reply usually gives you enough time to work out what has just been said allowing you to give a suitable reply that is a bit more constructive I will try and remember to count to 10 in the future, but of course it is going to be harder to put in practice then to say Usually I would not deal with anyone who pressures me, I would just walk away. I try and shop only in shops that are too busy so no one will bother me and rent cars rather then buy them. But when buying a boat?

It's not clearly obvious I have autism when you meet me. I try and show a composed exterior even when I'm cracking up inside. People might notice I tend to answer questions with short answers like yes or no rather then chatty answers, sometimes I don't understand what is being asked and shrug or give a minimal response which is sometimes interpreted as being a bit rude. Some people sense a weakness and will try and take advantage... But I have not seen a surveyor advertise that they purchase boats for people, where should I look for this and how would they phrase it? Would that also have to be negotiated? Thanks for explaining the process, I have tried to read up on this but no one else has put it in such a clear and helpful way

Thank, how do I go about using PM's (Private Messages)? Sorry if my question seems very dumb

Indeed, however on this occasion I think they need knowledge of Boats. My experience with advocates has not always been great, sometimes it is hard to instruct them in the language they need to hear, sometimes they just don't want to do the job, they are often over worked with too many targets to hit, I do not know where to find a good one and have never met one that would be able to help with something as difficult as this

How do the other members with similar conditions cope? I am in London, I was looking at a boat in Braunston Marina I hope I didn't mislead with my other post I am interested in speaking to people on this forum

This is the sort of service I imagined, however I have not seen any of the surveyors advertise it. How would they advertise it? what would they call it? I guess it's a case of telephining them and asking if they do this. Do you know of any that do this or where they advertise?

I hope this is corect, to quote you when replying. I am in London, I was looking at a boat in Braunston Marina

I have ashbergers/autism spectrum disorder and find it hard to negotiate with people. I have seen a boat at a Marina but am unable to purchase it because of the Sales Staff at the Marina. Is there some kind of service where you pay someone else to do the negotiating? I know it is advisable to get a servey done on a boat, but it is not much use to me if I am unable to negotiate even with the report