Thank you all for your insights, it has all been useful.
Although I have a decent budget, I do want to do this without blowing the bank, as it were.
A question for those who have bought new sail away boats, would you mind giving me a rough idea on how much it cost to do? Sorry if that is too personal....
My husband and I are both from engineering backgrounds and my father also ran an engineering company. So we would all be capable of doing the work. Whether or not we want to do it is sometimes another question!!!😆 (Joking, we are all enthusiastic about it). My father has owned boats in his past and I have spent many a year cruising the cut for holidays, so we are not total virgins.
We can wait for a year or more for the build tbh, obviously the sooner it is don the better. I would probably pay for some of the work to be done, and do some ourselves, to save time and hassle.
To answer questions (sorry if I miss some).
The cruiser stern, we want to have the rear space as our area to sit out and enjoy cruising along and sitting out to enjoy when we are moored Especially as we want the bedroom at the very front. It is important to us that the kitchen is close to the stern, so that we can supply food and drinks to whoever is driving, and so that my messy husband and muddy pawed dog, do not drag filth through the whole boat. Plus I like the idea of waking up and opening the front doors out to enjoy the fresh morning. So the reverse layout is the deal breaker. i would consider the semi trad, if we still have space to sit together. Also my husband is a 'relaxed' guy, he likes the idea of being comfy while driving the boat! Yes... I will be the designated lock keeper...
The problem with me, is that I have slight issues with OCD and having to completely control the environment I am in and if I am doing something, I tend to have to strip right back to the bare bones of things. The insulation will bother me, if I dont think it is good enough, for instance. (there are pictures of myself and my father hovering under the floorboards of the house we renovated). This is something that concerns me with the second hand boat thing. Will I end up going mental and having to strip it down to its bones anyway?!! Unless I do find one that is the right layout and just need a bit of updating, for instance I like the modern look and more white, not so much wood, and I would most likely redo the bathroom.. but then the danger is, i then see the underside and start freaking out about the insulation..🤔