thanks so much everyone! i think we will go for putting the stove and the webasto in parallel, using the same water circuit (and keeping one coil for the engine). I assume the heat transfer is negligible when one coil heats the domestic hot water to the other coil (say, if the engine heats the calorifier, no heat would be lost to the system attached to the other coil?)
If we went for a gravity fed system from the stove back boiler, how would this then combine with a pumped system when the webasto is active? can anyone recommend a flap valve that would be needed to link these up in parallel? is it just the check valves that nicknorman posted? Is there anything else required when putting two different heat sources in parallel on the same circuit, i guess the valves alone will prevent hot water from the stove back boiler from entering the webasto?
and in terms of linking things together, is it normal practice to feed the calorifier before or after rads?
So the webasto is better used with both rads and the calorifier? rather than just the calorifier?